Stop Exisiting And Start Living

Hot Alpha Female aka ME! - Ski Patrolling 2007

Do you guys have so many thoughts running through your head at time .. its feels like its about to explode? Do you spend more time worrying about how to live life than actually living it? Like how many of us, actually take the time out to manage our thoughts? To actually think about what we are thinking?

Girls when we are getting ready in the morning and putting on "our face" are we really just thinking about that and are totally and completely in that moment? Or is our mind somewhere else? Is it wondering off thinking about that cute guy the other night, that job at work that needs to be finished, or what you should do with that problem that has been bugging you this whole week?

Guy's when we are driving or doing something habitual are you really there and 100% focused on exactly what you are doing? Not reflecting on the past or visualizing the future, but simple being in the present.

This is something that I have been thinking about over the week. N I have noticed all the different things that I have been thinking while doing something else. I found my mind to always be wondering, if I was out shopping I was thinking about am event in the future, or something that I had to do when I got back home. I mean I'm definitely one of those people who can't pay attention to something unless it is absolutely necessary. Everything around me fascinates me and I can jump from a deep and meaningful conversation, to talk about something small and insignificant thing that happened the night before.

But at the same time I think to truly live life, you need to be "present". N I think part of the philosophy of being present is actually stop thinking about the past and stop worrying about future. Its kind of like the mindset of ... "if this was your last day on earth, how would you go about relating to people, what would you tell your family, would you take that risk?”

With relating to people, this means being in the moment with them. About focusing and giving your full and undivided attention to that person when they are talking to you. I mean you guys I'm sure have experienced it. Talking to some of your friends .. and knowing that they really aren’t there.

N what I’m saying, is that we really just have to start living now. Concentrate on what we are doing now. So when we are going on a date. Focus on enjoying that person's company, rather than thinking if they are going to be a good match for you. In a relationship, appreciate your partner instead of thinking where things are going wrong.

I think that a lot of us have become accustomed to living on the safe side of life. The predictable side, with the mindset that tomorrow is something that is always going to be guaranteed.

But here is the thing.

Nothing in this life is guaranteed. Why are you planning for something 5 years down the track, or for a specific event to happen for you to feel happy? The truth is, that there are no guarantees for life and that you can never really take anything for granted.

We only have one life and its our job to make the most of it. Its our job to do the best with what we know how.

The reason that I bring this up, is because when it comes to dating, sometimes we can get too far ahead of ourselves and we can end up over analyzing something. Instead of enjoying the moment for what it is .. we start wishing that something was different, better, clearer.

Instead of not really knowing where this next date, fling, relationship is going and enjoying the excitement of it all, we are so focused on these strict regimes and expectations that need to be met before we can move forward.

What am I getting at? That sometimes we can get caught up in merely existing rather than really living. That we are apprehensive when we should really be excited. That we are closed minded when we really should be amazed at the possibilities out there.

There simply is not enough time in this life for worry, chaotic thoughts and stress. Life is meant to be sweet.

So let just keep it simple ... ok?

Hot Alpha Female

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