So lets look at the above image. Isn't it sweet? Picture Perfect right?
WRONG!
Why?
Let me explain ......
So as you all know 2008 is a leap year. And as part of tradition this means that on 29th Feb as a girl you can propose to your guy.
Now here is the thing. Im all about being an Alpha Female. With that comes a little bit of a dominant personality trait. Some people may think that Alpha Females have more masculine traits in them. Well whatever ...
The fact of the matter is that as an Alpha Female, I would never ever ever propose to my partner. I don’t care what day it is. I don’t care about leap years. I don't care how long we have been dating. To me – proposals are done by the man.
The one problem I have about this … Is that I really think that this emasculates the man. I mean it’s the guys job to propose. That’s his thing!
The ironic thing is that I have no problems with a girl earning more money than her man .. but I do have a problem with a girl proposing to a guy. This, in my rule book just doesn’t sit right. To be honest it kind of grosses me out and makes me squirm.
In the dating game, I really believe that you can’t do a man’s job for him. You can’t make decisions for him and you can’t think for him. Yet so many so women when it comes to dating, turn into green eyed monsters and start wanting commitment, marriage and kids after the 2nd date.
That’s part of the reason why I think its important for the guy to propose. Here’s the thing girls. The only reason why a guy hasn’t proposed is because he isn’t ready. When he is ready willing and excited, then it will happen. If he hasn’t, its because he is still trying to figure himself out. So when you go out there and propose to him first, while he might say yes, you have taken his job and his role and put yourself up S*** creek.
The fact of the matter is that as an Alpha Female, I would never ever ever propose to my partner. I don’t care what day it is. I don’t care about leap years. I don't care how long we have been dating. To me – proposals are done by the man.
The one problem I have about this … Is that I really think that this emasculates the man. I mean it’s the guys job to propose. That’s his thing!
The ironic thing is that I have no problems with a girl earning more money than her man .. but I do have a problem with a girl proposing to a guy. This, in my rule book just doesn’t sit right. To be honest it kind of grosses me out and makes me squirm.
In the dating game, I really believe that you can’t do a man’s job for him. You can’t make decisions for him and you can’t think for him. Yet so many so women when it comes to dating, turn into green eyed monsters and start wanting commitment, marriage and kids after the 2nd date.
That’s part of the reason why I think its important for the guy to propose. Here’s the thing girls. The only reason why a guy hasn’t proposed is because he isn’t ready. When he is ready willing and excited, then it will happen. If he hasn’t, its because he is still trying to figure himself out. So when you go out there and propose to him first, while he might say yes, you have taken his job and his role and put yourself up S*** creek.
Now I'm all about being a liberated kind of chick. N I really don't find anything liberating about proposing to a guy. In fact i think it makes you look like a bit of an idiot.
If there is one thing that I want to say in this post is you have to let your man be a man. Give him some space so you can see the relationship flourish. And by all means don’t propose to him first!
So guys what do you reckon? Am I right? Would you feel weird if your partner proposed to you first. Or said “I love you” first. How would you react?
Let me know your thoughts guys – because you know im listening =)
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5 Insights:
Proposing is indeed the guy's job, or to be more precise, the ACT of the proposal needs to be initiated by the guy.
However, all women use chick telepathy to tell when a partner is ready (or not) and chick mind control to influence their partner into popping the question. So, in essence, much of the process of proposing is a shared experience.
I agree, dear alpha female. But I differ a little when you say 'It's only guy's job'. In fact, the most alpha men actually like it when a really worthy woman comes over and actually propose thing.
Alpha men can recognize an alpha woman who isn't afraid to NOT let go of a man she really wants.
Most women simply let the right man go because they are too busy determining if he's alpha enough to propose first. May be they need to get his attention in the right way first.
Lance: Well to an extent if a relationship is getting pretty serious then both people will have a general idea of what the other person is thinking and its probably something they might have discussed beforehand.
None the less, I think that it actually shows your own high worth when you allow you man to be the man and sit back and let him propose to you.
I personally think, that would make him happier than having the girl propose to him first. N for that, you need to be fairly confident in yourself, to give that power to your man.
Armaan: Thanks for your comment! =) While I think in theory it sounds nice for a chick to propose to her guy, I don’t think its as effective in real life.
Its kind of like how guys say they would love it if a girl kind of asked me out first.
But in reality, this can be a little off putting in the end, because the girl is then being the pursuer and not allowing her man to do what he needs to do.
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Laura's Take: I couldn't resist commenting on this one!
I guess you would call me an Alpha Female as well, but I must say, I would never propose to Kris, unless it was obviously a joke... I'm sorry, popping the question is the man's job, not mine.
One thing I would do however, is to tell Kris how I want him to propose to me. Lol. Seriously though, no cheesy holiday proposals.. and no family there, just me and him. I'm not bossy, just know what I want.
Hey laura: I'm glad your with me on this one. I think part of being an Alpha Female and not being afraid to state what you want.
It is all about having the confidence to be vulnerable. If that doesn't sound contradictory. But it is definately not about taking the man's role in the relationship.
More so about es stem and self respect.
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Thanks for comment!! .. I have left heaps of comments on ur guys site, but they don't seem to be appearing lately =(
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