I’ve seen so many people complain about the dating game. Complain that there are too many rules and then complain about the fact that there are rules. Common things I hear are “Why cant someone just like me for me” or “Dating rules?? Nah they are all a bunch of rubbish”.
Well sorry to drop the bomb on some of you reading this. But usually people who make those comments, are just frustrated, upset and confused as to why they cant make the game work for them. They don’t understand why someone isn’t interested in them and blame it on the person, rather than looking at what actions they have been doing that might have caused such a response.
Hey im here to say something that many of you might not like to hear. Dating IS A GAME, there are RULES and its your job to learn what they are. I’ll let you in on something. There is ONE thing that both guys and girls get wrong in this game.
So im going to tell you what they are … are you ready?
So for the guys. The single thing that you guys do wrong, most or all of the time, is to be too nice. You know the saying “Nice guys finish last” … well I reckon that a chick said that .. and she was talking about YOU!
The one thing that a nice guys need to remember is that
A) You can’t talk a chick into liking you
B) You can’t bribe a chick into liking you
C) You cant convince a chick into liking you
The only way you are going to get a girl to like you, is to almost, seduce and lure her into liking you. She is the one at the end of the day making the decision if she is going to accept your invitation.
Your job is to be one irresistible invitation.
So now for the girls. The single thing we do wrong, is to be too needy. Now this can be expressed in a number of different ways, but usually is expressed by being controlling, demanding and just plain right bitchy.
Here’s the thing girls. Guys don’t like to be told what to do. They like to think that they have control over their own whole world. So when you come along and tell them how to eat, sleep and go to the toilet and demand things like commitment, marriage and a car ….. well it kind of freaks them out.
So the one thing that you need to remember is
A) You can’t talk a guy into commitment
B) You cant force a guy into commitment
C) You can’t bribe a guy into commitment
What you can do, is to sit back and enjoy the courting process. What you can do, is make you’re a prize by which he will want to hunt.
At the end of the day for both genders. Its all about seduction. Learn how to seduce the opposite sex and your already half way there.
What do you guys reckon? Let me know your thoughts – Coz im listening
Hot Alpha Female
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Hot Alpha Female,
You're so right about the "GAME" part. Yes, its just a game, so play well and if you lose, never mind :)
But commitment is a different story.
Hi miza,
Im glad that you agree =) people need to accept that there are rules and learn how to play the game right.
Can you explain more on what you meant in terms of commitment?
Hot Alpha Female
You are right Hot Alpha Female!
Honestly, if a "chick" as you say, starts acting controling over me, I would simply walk away. It's just because I like more feminine side of women...
And, yeah, I've tryed talking a girl into liking me years ago...
Didn't work, tho! :D
Im2ortal
http://dating.im2ortal.com
There is more into dating, that you can possibly imagine...
Exactly im2ortal,
If the girl understands what it is that turns men off then she can then learn how to keep that attraction maintained with him. Its works the same with guys aswell.
Hot Alpha Female
I agree. Dating is a game.. relationships are negotiations.
Some win..some lose..
we all hope to win sooner or later.
Depending on how one looks at it, this article is appalling at worst and simply misguided and simplistic at best.
First, the idea of dating as a game. On one level, sure, it's a game and there's no harm in that. But in reality, the advice you get from other sites is much better, sites that recognise that men and women are more alike than different. For guys, this means avoiding or developing out of anything on HAF's "Nice Guy" list.
But there is so much to life and the mind, that it's very easy to go WAAAAYYYYY beyond the idea of a game when dating and starting relationships. The game nature of dating can be legitimately complained about, because we're aware of the stupid things that people do, largely because "society" and sites like this tell you all that there are these strict rules and you have to abide by them. Of course, the average person (woman or man) simply isn't intelligent enough to comprehend the nuances and complexities that can be had in a relationship, as they are presented in a good book or French film. But that's okay--if you are average and not "very smart", then by all means, play "the game" and follow the rules.
So maybe it's the intelligence that makes the difference? It certainly does when I read your statement "She is the one at the end of the day making the decision if she is going to accept your invitation."
What kind of hypocritical bullshit is this? This is exactly the kind of lack of understanding of potential in relationships that I mentioned. You're getting more and more (and sometimes, all) of the equality women have demanded for the last 30 or 40 years, yet you still refuse to give up being in "control" of the relationship. If we're equal, why can't I, as the man, ever have the choice of accepting a woman's invitation? You complain about simple, unintelligent men that are little more than walking erections, yet you refuse to accept that us good men, some being very intelligent men, are complicated and have the same wants, desires and needs to be pursued and wanted as you. Are you so retarded that you can't understand that equal really means EQUAL?!?
HAF says it's all about seduction. Well, I'm attractive, professional, fit, and smart enough to be in Mensa, and no woman that refuses to give up ancient gender role behaviors and move into the territory of potential as true partners with me will ever seduce me or get my effort.
Dating is not a game. Relationships are not a game. Love is not a game. Life is not a game.
Those who treat these things as such show not a practical understanding of them, but rather a cynical, glib outlook on what are the most meaningful aspects of human existence.
Dating IS a game.
It's like the TANGO, only...on steroids.
Anyone who thinks otherwise obviously HASN'T been paying much attention.
It's an old song and dance, and it's one that goes back to the roots of our animal instincts.
A game of back and forth, give and take, dominance and submission, and most importantly, attraction building.
The only way that one could consider it 'cynical' is if they're on the bad end of it.
Kind of like those people who whine about being alone on valentine's day.
Pua Mongrel
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